I help high-achieving couples have deep, loving, and emotionally connected relationships without having to choose between their career and their partner.

My clients struggle as you might. Despite being compassionate, ambitious and respected leaders in their careers, always looking out for others, and try to show up as the best version of themselves in their relationships, life can be difficult. 

When couples first inquire about couples’ therapy, they feel disconnected from each other feeling stuck in the same relationship patterns over and over again. They are finding security in throwing themselves into their work, getting home late or working long hours, hoping that they will avoid talking about the state of their relationship. They realize the sparks have disappeared and there is less intimacy and physical touch. They question their ability to be able to meet their partner’s needs. They feel guilty and ashamed because they don’t think that they’re able to be there for their partner. The relationship feels like both partners are on parallel train tracks, moving in the same direction but feeling distant. They acknowledge that if things don’t change, it’s going to suffocate all the air out of the relationship. 

Their decreased physical and emotional affection gets in the way of the life they want to build together in so many ways. They aren’t the kind of partner they want to be. They feel like they’re failing in the relationship. And their confidence in their ability to support each other is tanking. 

Before considering couples’ counselling, they were spending more time engaged with work and actively avoiding spending time with each other. They worried there was little hope for things to get better. And they were pretty certain the shame they felt about not being good enough, would eat them alive and destroy the relationship. The emotional distance felt unbearable.

You deserve to have a successful career and deep, meaningful relationships as you weather life’s ups and downs. Your ability to change the relational pattern and become more responsive and emotionally present for your partner is not out of your reach. If you want to feel emotionally connected and be the best versions of yourselves at work and home, I’d love to help you get there.