You invest a lot of mental, physical, and emotional energy into your career and it can leave you feeling like an empty vessel, unable to show up at home with your partner. Feeling like you’re having the same argument, that you can’t resolve, for the 100th time.  

My clients struggle as you might. Despite being compassionate, ambitious and respected helping professionals, always caring for the well-being of others, and trying to show up as the best version of themselves, life can throw curve balls . 

When partners first inquire about couples or relationship therapy, they feel disconnected from each other and stuck in the same relationship patterns they’ve found themselves for years. Partners find themselves stretched thin, realizing that it’s taking an emotional toll to be present and empathic with their significant other, after long days of helping others.

Frequently, partners wait months or even years, trying to work on their relationship on their own, or experiencing a crisis such as an affair, before reaching out for help. No matter how many podcasts, workbooks, and skills they have tried to learn, they don’t see much improvement and they question whether their relationship will survive. They find themselves feeling guilty and ashamed for having to reach out for help, viewing this as a weakness. They know something much deeper is preventing them from connecting the way they used to but have no idea what that is.

Their decreased physical and emotional affection gets in the way of the life they want to build together in so many ways. They find themselves saying they don’t want to repeat the same patterns they saw in their own caregiver’s relationships. They feel like they’re failing in the relationship and they see no way to change or re-direct the course. They feel defeated and lonley in their fight to feel important to one another.

Before considering relationships counselling, they were feeling frustrated and burning the candle at both ends. They were worried there was little hope for things to get better. The emotional distance felt unbearable and they desperately wanted to make the hurt stop.

Unlike individual therapy, relationship therapy helps you witness and experience each other in different ways, before even leaving the session.

You don’t have to wait until things go from good, to bad, to worse. When working with me, you get more than skill-building exercises; I step alongside you to help you gain insight into yourself , your cycle, and help you change the way you interact in real time. If you want to change the relational pattern that you’ve been stuck in, I’d love to help you!